Facebook Polygamy ...

Salaams world. So I hope everyone is doing well in lala land. I wanted to discuss an issue that is been very interesting lately. Guys on Facebook trying to recruit me as their 2nd wife. Ususally then men are from overseas or from Philly. So below i will past a convo from a FB guy

Brother Ali (not real name) : Ok, you married? probably so

Me: no not married. are u?

Brother Ali: Yes I am married why are you interested?

Me: No, sorry I dont talk to married brothers.

Brother Ali: Why is that? maybe i will be the exception, can i ask you a question? Do you have any kids?

Me: Inshallah you will have a good search with finding a wife to add to your team, I dont have any kids and do not chat with married brothers on any level.salaams.

Brother: Wait , I could be the one.

Me: Delete, BLOCK

2nd senario

Brother: Asalaamualaikum my dear sister how are you?

me: Walaykum salaam, I am doing well thank you for asking.

Brother: Are you married , Mashallah you are beautiful

me : No I am not are you?

Brother: Yes, but I am looking for a second wife

me: Sorry I have no interest in polygamy but i hope Allah helps you in your journey and whomever is added can be a benefit to your family. salaams.

Brother: Ok sister but I do hope that u made ur decision on islamic grounds. Because those women that reject a right of man from Allah will surely be punish on the day of reckoning.

Me: (thinking WTF is up with ol boy) That's your right I'm not rejecting it., You can be in polygamy if u want I'll be happy for you. I just don't want to practice this lifestyle , there is nothing wrong with a woman choosing other options. There is no coerisn in Islam .

Brother: Ok I'm sorry.

LOL wowzers seems like since i've been divorced ive been a polygamy magnet. I dont know why this is. I'm not trying to be added to anyone's team no time soon. I'll pass.

Ignored!

Asalaamu-alaikum world. Hope everyone is ok out there. So I get this email from Hassan. "Asalaamu alaikum Babe, I need you to stop shutting me out. I messed up and we need to work on things. I needed time to think things clearly. I owe you love. I'm sorry. Stop tryin to be mean babe and call me..."

Wowzers just when you think folks may have got themselves some rehab for their crack cocaine addiction you get something like this and realize clearly he isnt in touch with reality. I think perhaps I need to learn a new language and then tell him in this new language that I never want to talk to him or be with him again. I think this is the only way he will get it. That was only part of the email he sent.I've changed my number, blocked him on facebook, unfriended all of his family members on facebook, and the guy wont quit. The man is relentless LOL. Ignoring is so fun. Im glad I have accepted things for how they are. Its unfortunate that it happened this way but Allah gives us test and we must walk away learning valuable lessons. Moral of the story? When you dont want an ex-husband professional polygamist stalker.... change your name and move to Zimbabwe. LOL 

What Divorce feels like?

Aslaamu-alaikum world,
Well well well it has been a long time! I have been away for quite some time from the world of blogging .. and try to stay away from the topic of polygamy in general. But today I came back for a reason. Some of you (my followers) have been on this journey from day one and some are newbies to my blog. I appreciate all of the support nonetheless; but i felt it was time to not only give an update but share this overwhelming cacophony of emotions that i have brewing inside.

So much has happened since my last post last year. As the topic states Hassan and I have divorced.It was and still is a very painful experience. Although so much drama , fitnah, fighting , lies and BS malarkey let us to part ways I can honestly say I still miss him. I thought (wishful thinking) I would be over him by now but that doesn't appear to be happening as easily as I once imagined. Some days I wake up an it feels as if there is an elephant sitting on my chest, the pain is so heavy like it was yesterday. If i close my eyes long enough I can still hear him say "i love you babe". To love and hate a person at the same time is rather annoying.

To sum up the feeling of divorce in two words.. It sucks! There i said, for those who didnt know. I read a quote recently that said " Sometimes we have to learn to break our own hearts so we may release ourselves  from old ideas to be replaced by better ones." I am not sure i believe this but it sounds good I guess. My heart is broken, this much I know is true. I often replay my marriage in my mind as if it were my favorite show on my DVR and try to come to the conclusion "everything happens for a reason" .And that reason is? Well I guess that's the million dollar question. I accept my faults, my errors in judgement, weakness in character , and role in the failing of my relationship. I also accept each day trying to do better than the last and to move forward.

So , I guess you are wondering whatever happen to Hassan and Denise. Are they still married? Million dollar question #2. Well Hassan and Denise now have a child. And they are according to him Happily divorced! Didnt see that one coming.. well I did. Recently since he has been divorced from her he's been emailing me constantly ( i blocked his # & then changed my number) . He wants to get back together now. He says he "seeing things for what they are and how he loves me so much and she lied her way into a marriage to him" Getting back with him would be like jumping into a pool of sharks and expecting not to get bit.That would be the stupidest thing I could ever do. Signing up for a life with fitnah factory now baby momma Denise? I'll pass. But that is the synopsis.

Moral of the story.. Don't get married.LOL