Fitna Free Friday!!! Egpyt Edition

Asalaamu-alaikum world. Hope all is well out there. I am feeling a little drained. Long week at work and looking forward to Friday! I really am enjoying my job and have been working out everyday these last 2 weeks and down 7.3 lbs! yay! So anyways, since my brain is officially fried I really wanted to shift the focus from me and my problems  to a bigger issue. EGYPT!!! I am not sure if anyone or everyone out there has been watching the news but ...lets just say the beautiful country of Egpyt and the people who live there are really being tested right now. Much of what is shown in the media is edited and scripted, some is true some is not. Many big name networks have been down playing the situation over there, claiming only 5 deaths so far as a result of the protest. Well, it has been way more than that. Some reports are in the hundreds. So wherever you live in the world, take a few minutes in your day and make dua for the people in Egypt that they may find peace and transition into an organized productive government that actually cares about the people. Oh and I dont want to forget about the protesters in Tunisia very little media coverage so their issue unfortunately for many over this way has been stifled.

Regardless of what difficult situations we are facing whether it be a crazy hard final exam you have to study for , a  psycho cowife, car problems, money problems, husband problems, kid problems, keep in mind that 1. someone always has it worse, and 2. Allah will not change the condition of the people until they change that which is in themselves. 3. Being grateful for the life you have and the gifts you already are presented with provides so much comfort. Also when you show humility and gratitude towards Allah , then Allah bestows more favors upon you. Perhaps not the coach bag you have been eying for months but something else you need and may not even know you needed it. For example, my new job it couldn't have come at a better time. The environment is laid back, I am able to pray at work, and its very close to a Masjid here. My coworkers are really nice and I am able to study my Quranic lessons without drama. I know that may seem small but many jobs especially in the states try to slave you from the moment you walk in the door and then have the nerve to look at you crazy when you want to exercise your religious beliefs. Life for anyone isn't perfect, if they are saying it is they are lying. But we can still enjoy this life, while preparing for the next by focusing on our blessings and making effort to be grateful and draw nearer to Allah.

Duas to for tranquilty :
O Allah! Grant me light in my heart, light in my sight, light in my hearing, light to my right, light to my left, light above me, light underneath me, light before me, light behind me, and grant me light.

Often in times of stress, or discomfort we feel there is a dark cloud looming over us wherever we go. This dua I love because, when someone has hurt us, holding on to anger can cause bitterness and can hurt us more than the person who we are angry with. So asking for light in our heart is essential for finding
peace within ourselves. 

O Allah, have mercy on me! Do not leave me alone for even a moment, and put my affairs in order, there is no God but You.O Allah, nothing is easy except what You make easy; and You make the difficult easy if it be Your will.

If you cant cook stay out the kitchen!

                                                                Chicken Bryan

Aslaamu-alaikum world, so whats really good? So earlier today Hassan calls me on his way from home and we are talking and he mentions again that he is on his way to the store. So I say "what's up with you going to the store all the time, that's her job." Ok so I am very old school in regards to the husband and wife roles. My father is very old school as far as the woman should cook, clean, ect. and my mother raised me very independent so I guess that's why I am a jack of all trades lol. So anyways, he says "well i gotta eat." So I am like WTF, this chick doesn't have a job now, and cant go to the grocery store to get him some dinner and cook it? Wowzers , she is so slippen on her job. No man wants to work all day and then have to pickup takeout. The last 3 times I have talked to him on her nights, he is saying he has to go to the store. He has said before that her cooking skills are lacking severely. Ok, so ladies out there, all men want to come home to a decent meal. You dont have to be winning any iron chef contests (like me lol) but at least be able to make something semi-edible without having your man wanna barf. All adults male or female need to be able to throw down in the kitchen if need be. It just doesn't make sense for someone to be home all day and not cook. That is serious living in slackerville. She is already one step out the door she need all the skills she can. 

When I was not working, Hassan came home to 5 star meals all the time...and he still does. I told him "dont let me go over there and school her in the kitchen, she aint gonna like it" lol. Hassan asked me if it would be ok if he started stopping by for dinner on her nights because fast food sucks and so does her cooking. I was like sure Babe my door is always open. He's come over in the past for dinner and she has gotten upset about it. But really what does she expect? She better start watching FoodNetwork like thats the only channel on her TV and take notes. Otherwise she will be eating dinner alone. LOL. So anyways since I am talkin about food, here is a recipe for the chicken bryan (pictured above ) that I made. Hassan loved it ..this was soo good! Chicken Bryan is one of  Carrabbas ( really good Italian restaurant here in the states) most popular dishes. Its really good. I substituted the wine for apple juice and it turned out perfect! Made with fresh garlic mashed potatoes and steamed green beans. BTW got the recipe from here  used my George foreman to grill the chicken then did the rest.Going to make some beef stroganoff from scratch tomorrow for dinner will add the recipe later its really good. I make it in the crock pot so its very tender.
Ingredients:

• 1 tablespoon minced garlic
• 1 tablespoon minced yellow onion
• 2 tablespoons butter
• 1/2 cup dry white wine
• 1/4 cup fresh lemon juice
• 2/3 cup cold butter, sliced
• 1 1/2 cups chopped sun-dried tomatoes
• 1/4 cup chopped fresh basil
• 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
• 1/2 teaspoon white pepper
• 6 boneless skinless chicken breast halves
• extra virgin olive oil, for brushing
• 1/2 teaspoon salt
• 1/2 teaspoon black pepper
• 8 ounces caprinogoat cheese or 8 ounces other goat cheese, room temperature 

Directions

• Saute garlic and onion in 2 Tbls. butter in a large skillet over medium heat until tender
• 2 Stir wine (apple juice) and lemon juice into skillet, increase heat to medium high, and simmer to reduce by half.
• 3 Reduce heat to low and stir in cold butter, one slice at a time.
• 4 Stir in tomatoes, basil, kosher salt, and white pepper; remove from heat; set aside.
• 5 Brush chicken breasts with olive oil and sprinkle with salt and black pepper.
• 6 Grill chicken over hot coals 15-20 minutes, or until cooked through.
• 7 A couple of minutes before chicken is done, place equal amounts of goat cheese on each breast Spoon prepared sun-dried tomato sauce over chicken.

Fitna Free friday !! Beautify yourself

Ok so for this week's fitna free friday I decided to be lazy , yes I know lol and post something that was sent to me awhile ago. Next week I will make a comeback with something original ..lol i promise.

So that you can stay attractive and beautiful for the rest of your life.
1- To beautify your eyes, lower your gaze towards strange men, this will ...make your eyes pure and shiny. 

2- To beautify your face and make it shiny, keep doing wudu minimum five times a day. 

3- To have attractive lips, always mention Allah and remember to speak the truth.

4- As for blush and rouge, "Modesty" (Haya) is one of the best brands and it can be found in any of the Islamic centers.

5- To remove impurities from your face and body, use a soap called "Astaghfaar".(seeking forgiveness of Allah) this soap will remove any bad deeds. 

6- Now about your hair, if any of you has a problem of hair split ends, then I suggest "Islamic Hijab" which will protect your hair from damage. 

7- As! for jewelry, beautify your hands with humbleness and let your hands be generous and give charity to the poor. 

8- To avoid heart disease, forgive people who hurt your feelings.

9- Your necklace should be a sign to pardon your fellow brothers and sisters. If you follow these advices given to you by the Creator, you will have a beautiful inner and outer appearance.

Football is so romantic

 

LOL thought this pic was so funny

Aslaamu-alaikum world! Omg let me just say that I hate football ..seriously like how many games have to come on before its over? When is the super bowl again??? So the last few days were awesome and not so awesome. All i have to say is if I never watch another football game it will be too soon. So the last few days me and Hassan spent the weekend together working on business things, relaxing and you guessed it watching countless hours of football. So after about 10 mins into the Jets game on Sunday I was ready to stab my eyes out with a dull fork lol. There is only so much torture a girl can take. So I tell Hassan, let me get the keys so I can run to the store or just run far far away so I can escape this, and he says "what you dont like football, its romantic watch the game with me babe." WTF? Umm no dude sorry. I try to be a good wife and all but you have to cross the line somewhere. And the messed up part of the whole thing was we were out of town so I didnt even know where to go and had no gps so I had to stay with Hassan. Hmm the things we do for our men lol. But so anyways we get back home, yay home sweet home and Hassan gives me a nice massage and tells me he appreciates me being his partner in crime. I am like whatever dude you need to make more guy friends so you can have some sort of male bonding fest. But now that he has zero free time I guess that wont be happening any time soon. One good thing about having more "me time" is not being forced to watch sports or pretending like I care that his team just got blew out 28 to 0 lol. We spent the day together and then he went over Denise's tonight. Which was good because I could catch up on things I needed to do, like workout  and go to my quranic studies class. Also since I didnt feel like cooking I wanted to get some takeout. Hassan is all trying to be on a budget now so it was good to grab some grub without having to hear any back talk from him. He thinks I spend too much money .. oh well you knew how I was long ago get used to it buddy. So anyways I went to this really good Thai restaurant here that has the best pad thai in the world..well at least around these parks and it was so good. So tonight was a good night, no football, no drama, some good grub and Hassan texting me all night sayin he misses me. Hmm hope Denise doesnt check his phone. oh well not my problemo! Hope everyone else's week is off to a great start. Oh yea it is Martin Luther king day... I guess in the whole observance of today I should shout out what my dream is..that will be the next post my brain is a little to fried to write that right now. ok good night/day guys and dolls

Awesomeness at every turn

 

Asalaamu-alaimum world whats really good? Omg yesterday was such a good day, al-humdillah things are coming together quite nicely.  So yesterday started out with me getting a call from one of the companies I interviewed with when I came back. They basically said they loved me and that I was the best person who ever interviewed for the job and want me to start asap.(in so many words you gotta read between the lines) LOL.  YAY happy dance. I already had another job lined up but this one pays more and is also in my field , and is the job I REALLY wanted. So I am very excited about that. I called Hassan to tell him the good news and he was very excited. So excited he put some more money in my account so I can buy new work clothes. Yay, love going shopping on his dime! 

So like I said in the previous post I was going to make fish or chicken for dinner. I ended up making baked catfish, with wild rice, and steamed broccoli. So yummy. Hassan comes home from work and surprises me with Pink tulips (so pretty) and crab legs to celebrate my new gig. We both love crab legs. The flowers are beautiful and he was being really sweet, but I dont know what he is really celebrating, because no matter how much money I make I am not paying any bills around here. Perhaps if he didnt have Denise I might think to contribute. lol But, I refuse to start paying bills when that was never part of this deal, just to help him manage both households equally. Thats not my problem. Hassan never has asked me for money for the bills, so I hope he isnt getting overly excited thinking I am going to start volunteering my funds..nope lol. Sorry I know some people might think thats selfish or whatever but I dont care lol. I think Hassan is just happy that I am going to be working outside again and get more social interaction. I do miss a 9 to 5.

And then the icing on the cake after a awesome day was finally Grey's Anatomy came back with a new episode after the crazy long Christmas break of re-runs. And Christina has returned to Seattle grace. For those that follow the show you know thats a big deal. For those that dont, shame on you lol that show is the best show ever! But anyways yesterday was a really good day and just wanted to share. Today has been pretty awesome to so far. Just got back from the Gym. About to do some crunches and then eat some leftovers. Later guys and dolls. Hopefully everyone out there had a good Jummah friday!!!

Beef its whats for dinner..

 

Aslaamu-alaikum world. Whats really good. So I decided to post the recipe for the steak I made last night. OMG so good . Hassan ate his plate so fast like he was one of those kids off of "feed the children network" lol and then went back for seconds. He says, "babe that was on point ,you still the best cook i know." And the best wife of the year award goes to....drum roll please.......ME lol  So this isn't the actual picture but this is as close to as what we had since I was hungry from having an anorexic day and didn't think to take a picture before. And Hassans plate was gone is 60 seconds lol. My mom made some really good, best steak I ever had ever when I was visiting last month so I wanted to try to make it for Hassan. This was actually the first time I made steak like this. One reason is the halal meat stores here act like they dont know what I am talking about when I ask for steak. It could be a language barrier i dont know, but I know they have a whole cow back there somewhere so they need to start selling it more. I made steak, garlic-cheddar mashed potatoes, green beans, and rolls. 

Steak Recipe :

• First start with some good size steaks (we had 3) T-bone or round will do
• Season with garlic powder, onion powder, salt, pepper, parsley. Let marinate if you want for at least 30 mins.
• Then coat meat in flour and sear in skillet with a little canola oil. Cooking on both sides for about 5 mins depending on thicknesss of steaks.
• Remove steak and place in oven for 1 hour and 20 mins (depending on thickness) bake at 350
• meanwhile when steak is baking saute onion, mushrooms, and garlic and then add to the steak after it has baked for about 40mins.
• Steak will be awesome and tender. No medium rare or rare steaks around these parks

The Garlic Cheddar mashed potatoes (better then Red Lobster im my opionon)

• Start with a pot of chicken broth to boil potatoes in
• Add about 5-6 large potatoes or more depending on how greedy your family is.
• Let boil until good and soft about 20 mins. Then drain juices and set potatoes aside
• in large pot melt 1/2 stick of unsalted butter, then add 4-5 garlic cloves chopped and pressed
• Add 1/3 cup of milk, 1/2 cup of sour cream and 1 cup of sharp cheddar cheese mix well
• add potatoes back in pot and mash until all of the garlic cheese sauce is mixed evenly. Then add more cheese and salt & pepper to taste.
• Viola! im not going to give the green bean recipe because if you dont know how to make green beans then thats sad. Lol.

Enjoy guys and dolls and have a good day! I know I will. Hassan took leftovers for lunch so now I have to cook again tonight. snap. That guy sure does have an appetite. Think I will do chicken or fish tonight, switch up from the red meat.

I love me some him

Aslaamu-alaikum world, wow this year is off to a fantastic start. Let me just say that right now, omg I love Hassan so much. This dude seriously has me feined out LOL. I can really understand why other sisters (Densie) were trying to be on the team. My sister told me the other day that I need to quit being so "open." LOL . But contrary to popular belief there is nothing wrong with sweating a guy as long as he is sweating you back. Since I have been back Hassan has been my #1 fan. Giving me money any time I ask him, going shopping, dinner, movies,gifts, massages, complimenting me like crazy. Like over the course of the month I was gone, somehow , somewhere along the lines he morphed into this better version of himself. And this better version better stay for good. I dont wanna have to deal with no back sliding lol. So earlier today after salat we had taleem. Afterward he started starring at me and smiled. So i'm like "whats up babe, whats the smile for". He says . "I forgot how beautiful you are." Awe, isnt he a sweetie! Maybe he just wanted to get some, or maybe he is turning over a new leaf. Who knows, but I am really feeling his swagger these days. So in other unrelated awesome random news he tells me, "he loves how i know everything he likes." Hassan loves this apple Lazie drinks from the meat store. They are really good , kinda a halal apple martini type drink lol . So I keep them on hand. Guess Denise will have to learn his likes her own way. Oh well.
So in other news, lol my mother in law and I have made up. I was not really feeling her for awhile because she was all for Hassan getting a 2nd wife, and I really felt she should've been more on my side with the whole scenario. So anyways we kinda fell off. So I saw her this week me Hassan and her all went to dinner at this awesome Mediterranean place with really good kafta kabobs. So I bring her a gift when I saw her. So she calls me yesterday, which is the first real conversation since Hassan married Denise. We talked like for about an hour and we seem to be in a better place. So by the end of the call she is basically saying I am her favorite daughter in law. You have to read between the lines, but thats what she said in so many words lol. So come to find out, every time Hassan and Denise have problems, Denise calls his moms and complains to her. His mom isnt really feeling this at all. Ooopsy daisy, seems like Denise cant catch a break. Oh well. People have to learn , a man is not going to like a woman who keeps annoying his mother, esp if him and his mom are close.

Also on a sidenote, Question : Every time Hassan aka mr.sexy face comes home from Denise's house he has on new clothes. Like new everything, shirt,pants,shoes, socks, underwear. So these things she has bought for him, I sure didnt buy him nothing, I really feel a man should be the one goin shopping for the wife, instead of the other way around.When me and Hassan first got married we went on a nice shopping spree and he hooked up my wardrobe. Yes, I have bought him gifts along the way, but I just feel like a man should be spoiling his wife. Not the other way around.To me it seems a little desperate, am i wrong? At first I was feelin irritated like why are you trying to wear all this new gear at my house and show off lol. But now, I kinda think its funny that she bought him all this stuff, and he's wearing it trying look fly for me lol. hmm?? As my umi says "dont sweat the small stuff." lol ok later guys and dolls have a good day!

Will work for cute shoes!

Aslaamu-alaikum world. So a few things inspired this post. 1. Dsw's shoe selection, and the NEED to get coach's new python heels. So cute. Also some comments from some readers about women being maintained. Ok, let me just say I am not a feminist or anit-male or whatever but this is how I feel on women working. All women should know how to get a job and or have a side hustle that she can earn her own income. Whether or not she chooses to work, or not is up to her, but in this day in age you should be able to get out there if need be. Or have your own small business you can run out of the home. Whether it be a maid service, catering, bake sale, doing hair, doing henna, a daycare service, typing papers for lazy college students, stealing things then selling them on ebay (lol jk) but you get the point. So this brings me to my 2nd point, and yes I do have one. Women need to feel empowered. Relying solely on your man perhaps might not be the best idea for this empowerment. Anything can happen to ol' boy and then what? Where will that leave you? Dancing for dollars at a low budget club? May Allah forbid. Selling foodstamps to pay rent? Hopefully not. Whether your husband is awesome big money maker or down on his luck and in between jobs a girl has to get hers. Now I know some people are thinking whats the point of working if you have a husband...or going to say that's the husbands job. Yes, your right, it is his job to provide, and thankfully Hassan does this well, at least for me cant speak for Denise lol. But I just dont like the mentality of "settling just to be maintained." We as women need to be able to maintain ourselves if need be. So many stories I hear sound really messed up, dramafest ...I know my story isnt perfect but women have to have self respect and self worth. Having self worth goes a long way in getting what you want, and living how you want. And I am so not trying to put anyone down for not working , right now I dont have fulltime job, maybe I will soon who knows. I just wish more muslimas would know their self worth, and put effort into elevating themselves financially and spiritually. Know what you bring to the table is awesome. Be creative in your own ways to make money. Money isnt everything, and yes you can be content living a humble lifestyle...and you can be content wearing coach python shoes, everyone has their own comfort level lol. But, never settle or say in a situation for "maintenance." not a good look. Here are some nice halal ways to make some income around the neighborhood that you dont have to put on your taxes..yes i know you can thank me later.

• Tutor/teach quran/arabic classes to new Muslims
• sell baked goods
• become translator or teach your language to others
• Muslima taxi service
• Got sewing skills? Make & sell clothing

 I could go on an on., but i wont got stuff to do..lol Ok have a good day guys and dolls.

Hmm what about 2nd husbands..lol

Aslaamu-alaikum world. I saw this cartoon and it made me laugh so hard. Then I starting thinking if polygamy was halal for women in Islam to have more than one husband how many of us  would really want to practice that? Yes, of course it would be difficult because in the case of children, if a woman is sleeping with several men then there would be a mystery of "who is the baby's biological father." I guess she could always go on Maury to solve that LOL. But besides that I am not sure if it would really be that bad lol. Here are some benefits of having a 2nd husband:

• Two guys to buy you things
• 2 bank accounts to have access to
• one man might be good kisser other better at special services
• one husband could teach you deen the other might be a more worldly knowledgeable man lol

Hmm there doesn't seem  to be many benefits of this 2nd husband thing. LOL. Disadvantages, hmm 2 guys to cook and clean for. Two mother in laws to pretend to like..lol. Two men to yell at when the clothes are on the floor or trash needs to be taken out . Or when they leave a sip of some juice in the pitcher and put it BACK in the fridge like its ok.Two men to remind to put the toilet paper back on the roll instead of on the back of the toilet like a little lazy kid. lol I dont think I would like the 2 husbands thing at all. It might be fun at first but then it would get real tiring real fast. Plus it would be gross to sleep with 2 men like that. Who would really exercise their "rights" to have 2 husbands if it were permissible?? Hmm not me. But if you had 2 husbands would that double your chance at getting a golden ticket?

Inner peace and all that warm and fuzzy...

Aslaaum-Alakum world. So I have been having a humbling last few days. So many people assume that because a marriage may be polygamous that you are stressed like crazy and ready to throw up a peace sign and leave your hubbie any second. This is not the case. Perhaps my blog maybe misleading lol, I try to be honest with my feelings as I feel them and as things happen. Marriage as we all know is 1/2 one's deen which that in itself tells us it will be challenging and filled with many tests. If your Chemistry teacher tells you half your final exam will be on the periodic table. I bet you would do your best to memorize that bad boy front back and sideways. So marriage is no different. It being half one's deen is letting Muslims know, dont slip and slack off in your marriage. Strong marriages promote and help build a strong community. Without that as Muslims we are truly living in a sad state. So anyways back to the whole inner peace thing, I have been doing a lot of dua, zikr, and reading and really very appreciative of the life I have right now.The Quran says :
"And among His Signs is this that He created for you spouses of your own kind, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy for one another: verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (Quran 30:21)

Ok so for those that are reflecting, marriage is about being calm and tranquil, to feel all warm and fuzzy. Allowing this polygyny situation to go down isn't going to interfere with the happiness I already have. I wont let it. This situation doesn't define me. If someone asked who I were the first thing out my mouth isnt "the 1st wife." Yeah its a nice title and it feels good to pull rank at times so to speak but this situation is not bigger than why we are here and Allah's plan for me. First and foremost I am Muslim. I have my duties to Allah first, then my husband. I think too often women loose track of what is important and the reasons why they are here in the first place. If we keep in mind that this life is one big test and one day we will leave to meet our creator, only then will we begin to change our way of thinking as a result our situation. And that my friends lol is what will bring about inner peace. Not your husband, no matter how awesome he may be, not the cheesecake factory omg so good, and not being best friends with your cowife. Knowing your deen and loving what Allah has given you will provide you with more happiness than any person walking this earth. This is what we should strive for, a deeper understanding of knowledge. When I first started this blog many times I would be so mad and say to myself, "what the heck am I getting out of this deal." Really at times I didnt see how "bettering my deen" was a good trade off of what both of them would be gaining. I really felt jipped lol. Its sad to say but it is what it is. But strengthening my deen is much better than anything material my husband could ever provide. The concubine yeah she will get a husband, some money, lover ect. But if my husband left her or Allah forbid dies and he leaves us both, the only thing she can take with her to the hereafter is her deen. I'd much rather have gained that.

Bring sexy back

Whats good world? Often after people get married and get "comfortable" with each other, slowly but surly they slip into chill mode. Yeah, its nice to be able to be yourself around your partner,BUT yourself doesn't mean you have to dress and look like a homeless orphan LOL This is what I call having a case of the uglies. I mean everyone has their share of bad hair days, nobody is perfect. But as muslimas you NEVER want to let yourself go, next thing you know you'll be walking around the house looking like Ceiley. (color purple need i say more?) This week has  been SO AWESOME. I really feel like I am falling in love with Hassan all over again. <3 So since I am feeling all warm and fuzzy I decided now is a good time as ever to capture that awesomeness and share it with the world. Just a some tips ..people can thank me later. In marriage its natural for relationships to go through ups and downs. But even when you are "down" you still wanna look as fly and fabulous as ever. Polygamy can cause some initial stress as with any new unfamiliar situation in life. Chocolate therapy is fun but when you start packing on the pounds that is no longer fun or sexy. Well, unless you were previously anorexic which, if this is the case you have some serious issues that chocolate could never solve.

So this brings me to.. bring sexy back tip #1 Give your body healthy fuel regularly. A sugar high is amazing (sporadically) just don't overdose on the donuts and you'll be fine. BSB tip #2 Do your hair. Regardless of how your hair is there are always ways to style it to make it look better than bedhead. Get some curlers, rollers, flat irons, styling spray, braid it , switch it up keep him guessing. BSB tip #3 Maybe she's born with it maybe its maybelline. A little makeup can go a long way. I LOVE, love, LOVE makeup. Now I already know there are some muslimas out there who are against makeup, so this tip..well I guess its not for you then. But for those that love it, embrace your inner makeup artist. Watch a couple a youtube videos get fancy if you want. Even if you just do it around the home looking cute will make you feel so much better. Even a little Kohl and mascara and lip gloss can make a big difference! BSB tip #4 wear cute around the house clothes. Shorts, tank top, sundress, cute velor sweatsuit...any outfit that says "I'm effortlessly sexy and I know it." Another BSB #5 that "slave2Allah" reminded me of the other day is smell amazing. Get some new perfume/oil. Scent is the strongest sense tied to memory. So you want your hubbie to think about you when your not with him, give him a reason to. I love , love, love, Calvin Klein Euphoria omg smells so good. BSB tip #6 Get some new sleepwear. That's self explanatory no need to elaborate. Your man will appreciate that. BSB tip #7 Oh, I almost forgot, get off your butt once in awhile and workout. You cant bring sexy back if your still toting around 50 lbs of pregnancy weight from a kid you had 17 years ago. No offense to the thick sistas out there, thickness is nice. But overweight can also lead to many health problems when you start tipping the scale. Just saying a little cardio or a little yoga can go along way. BSB #8 Lose the attitude. No husband will ever find nagging, annoying, ghetto-hoodtastic, whiny, or psycho behavior sexy. And last but not least tip #9. Be confident, confidence so sexy. If you do not think you are awesome and sexy then chances are neither will he.

Here is a hadith to back up what I am saying just in case you love your homeles-orphan look and see no reason to change it. lol
HADITH 37 Rasulullah said: "The best of wealth is a righteous woman who pleases her husband when he sees her; she obeys whenever he commands her and when her husband is absent she protects her chastity and respect"